Joseph-
Woops! That came out bad! I should have re-read what I wrote. I did not mean “wait to have a baby” as the secular world waits a few years. I meant waiting for H-m for that right time whenever Hashem sees fit. Many people benefitting from Bonei Olam are quite religious I would think!
sarah_613 and e/o else,
Just keep in mind that most of these people have really good intentions. Try to realize that they don’t realize that they are doing something wrong. It sounds obsurd but it’s true! (They say the road to gihinom is paved with good intentions…Don’t take it literally Ch”V but it definitely has some truth!)