I just want to clarify, maybe I shouldn’t have used the word lechatchila, as if, if someone doesn’t do that, they are doing a bedeived. Maybe I should have used the word “given”, as in, since when did it become a given to send our boys away.
Yes, it’s always been done, but you know the saying Apples from the tree? That’s only so long as there’s not a strong wind. We’re living in stormy times where in we much constantly get feedback and evaluate THROUGH THE CLEAR LENS OF THE TORAH, of course, and getting reality checks from those who can see most clearly. If each person asks his own question – and isn’t that as old as being mechanech each child al pi darko? – we’ll all be in good shape.