Avhaben, even then, you are not 100% correct (meaning, your statement does not apply 100% of the time). Go through siman reish mem and resh mem alef and the nosei keilim.
For starters, if her husband tells her to go buy shabbos shoes she must listen to her husband (I believe reish mem sif yud ches, somewhere near there).
At any rate, there was no such explicit command or demand here.