Again – you keep speaking of two perpectives. I am making a distiction between cases where you realize it depends who/where you are, and where your sechel tells you the other is wrong.
That is why I keep agreeing to your points – because of course there may be another valid way. What I am stressing is the idea that you may be aware that there is another way, because there are other ways to think, but according to your way of thinking, you are right and the other wrong. And that is why there are these battles – often we don’t say “there may be another valid way”, but we fight for our way.