Anyone that is not currently in shidduchim should not be able to post here. I have been in the parsha for 2 and a half years, and I’m a big picture fan. I may be wrong, but I very much like to think of myself as a boy with depth, a heart of gold, and good Middos. I do not feel comfortable myself that I need to but trust me it has been very helpful. It is an emotional roller coaster, and extremely time consuming. I promise you I’m not looking for a model or anything close to that. But, I do know which look I am comfortable with or not. Your right, a picture does not always do justice, but it can give a good idea.
There is a misconception that ”its just a night”. Its not. Its usually a week event, between planning, thinking about before and after, renting a car, researching places to go, talking to rebbeim. . . Its not so simple.
Please do not judge us till you are in our shoes.
And a tip for the wise, if you are comfortable with your picture, then send it along with your resume. If a boy has a few names to look into that sound great, but one has a picture and he thinks its in his ball park he will look into it first. Trust me.
Hatzlacha to all singles, and iy”h may you all find your bashert very soon!!