By94; Firstly thanks for the upgrade to new3. . .
Second, I am very impressed at your ability to take a step back and realize you may not be right on target. It is a middah that will help you tremendously through life. (Am I sounding like a Rebetzin?)
Thirdly, your right I understand that there are girls that feel the way you described, which is why I explained in my first post why some of us boys ask nicely if a picture can please be included. You can please go back to my original post to recap. Now that you realize the flip side of the coin, and possibly realize that we are not just doing it for no reason. Rather, just practically it makes sense and can save hrs and hrs of time plus countless emotions, its up to the person involved to decide. She is more than welcome to say no I’m not comfortable. It’s than up to him to decide to research further. But people lie so badly by information, its scary. You cant blame some of us (including myself) that don’t want to ‘just give it a shot’ anymore.
You are definitively right about the shtark point. There are many guys that learn all day but do not really internalize it. I see this day in and day out, it’s a real petty.
And about your last point, I apologize but you are really off. I have unlimited internet access because I need it for college work. Honestly, do you really think I need that I need an 8*6 picture of a bais yaakov girl to fuel my Yetzer Harah? We aren’t malachim, but please babies we certainly aren’t. As you said, unfortunately there are no shortages of fuel out there. That is one of the most ridiculous things I have read in a while. And I know the same is with all guys as all my friends are in the market so I know the scoop.
And lastly, I think the American Girl Dolls are much more sophisticated than Barbie. You cannot compare the elegance. I hope I have shed a flicker of clarity in your oblivion.