Personality and looks are not mutually exclusive
most people, guys and girls, want someone they enjoy spending time with, but they would also like someone whose appearance is pleasing
someone who focuses only on looks is asking for a bad marriage, but realistically most people are not going to be able to ignore looks entirely, nor should they
a marriage is not just friendship, there’s also a physical component to it
many girls, in and out of the frum world, feel excessively judged on their looks. And they often are. But that doesn’t mean that asking for a photo means that the guy only cares about looks. It means that looks are one of the things he cares about.