Hello99: That’s something i’d be happy to debate you on but more importantly i’ll simply promote the projects being run under the guidance of recognized R”Y.,
(Perhaps you and others may challenge whether the projects are under said guidance, but as i’ve said previously this is not the forum for discussing that). If you/Dr P etc don’t want to believe it, that’s fine.) Feel free to ignore my posts. If you feel so strongly that I pose a threat to the well being of the community by promoting these “harmful” suggestions to the point that you would like to ban me from the CR, please take it up with the mods. One word of caution. A very important person in YW is/was a close talmid of Rav Shmuel Birnbaum Zatzal to whom the shiddcuh crisis was a very dear issue and he is well aware of the project and it’s validity.
Now for the core issues and the suggestions you deem so “harmful”.
1. Encouraging boys (and their mothers) to be open to the idea and thus date girls close to their own age or even slightly older. I can’t imagine you don’t think this is a good idea. To date this has had a big impact on breaking the stigma that made it difficult for slightly older girls to get dates.
2. Encouraging shadchanim to make a extra effort to give attention to girls who didn’t just start dating. Any downside to this?
Now we get to the one point that gets under your skin. Figuring out ways for boys to return from EY perhaps up to 6 months earlier and then they will beging dating whenever they and their rebbiem deem them ready, something that we both agree would be the right time for them to starty and we simply disagree as to whtether that is the present reality or not.
(This is without even mentioning the point that many R”Y and people with knowledge of the facts on the ground feel -totally unrealted to anything shidduch crisis related- that many many of the boys should not go to EY at all or at the most they should not stay as long as they do. For many boys the time in EY is not a time of growth to say the least. They do far better both prior to and post thei time in EY. The upside of maturity etc is far offset by the problems that arise plus the benefit of maturity could be accomplished in a shroter time span then the close to two years that many many boys go for.)
You can disagree of course but this is a course of action being worked on presently. And of course the ultimate questin is a shikul between the problem of creating hundreds and hundreds of older girls vs. the downside (not that i think there really is any) of boys starting the dating process a bit earlier becasue they/their parents etc. deem themselves ready and are not held back articifially. Either way this is a decision that is being made by people who should be making these decisions and i’m simply promoting it.