@halevy
Without having seen the midrash inside, yaakov was still married to a tzaddekes, and stayed married to a tzaddekes. That isn’t the case here.
Did it say that they yelled at each other in front of the kids?
Did they belittle each other infornt of the kids?
Did they make each other absolutely miserable?
Obviously the answers to all these questions is no.
So why apply the medrash to cases where the above questions are a yes?