I have been debating whether or no to post this point but I feel I must.
Yes, divorce should not be encouraged, and it should be a “last resort” but it is not as black and white as many are making it seem. Whenever I see someone saying, divorce is so much worse for the children, and what about the children, what will it do to the children etc.. A house with little to no shalom bayis is no better. A house with fighting, bickering, slamming doors, sleeping on the couch, things of that nature are no better.
I hAve a close relationship with my parents, I love them and they are good parents bH, wonderful people as well, but I used to wish that they would get divorced daily. They didn’t and now their marriage is pretty good, granted I don’t live at home anymore but my sister does so I know. They stuck it out and someone dealt with issue and 18 years later they are Doing well. Let me ask you this. Was it worth it? I am sure you will all say yes but I’m not so sure. Obviously I am happy now that they are together, and I don’t have to split my time between the two, and siblings disnt have to deal with living at one parents one week another parents the other, but growing up sometimes was pretty rough. My parents would go days Even weeks without speaking. My father would leave for the night after particularly bad fights. The cursing and throwing of objects and slamming of doors and the ” I wish I never married you”, and the worst to me or my siblings” I wish I never had YOU , you are the reason we fight all the time”. That was my favorite. I used to deal with each parents separately complaining to me about the other, locking one parent out of the house. The list can go on for ages. Now they seem pretty happy and I can only pray that my marriage stays great and is nothing like what theirs was. Can anyone honesty tell me I was better off that they stayed together?