Here’s one but I think that unfortunately people have gotten used to it and don’t realize how crazy it is. “Is she pretty/ is she skinny”. First of all, what guy doesn’t want a pretty girl?? but beauty is in the eyes of the beholder and i’d like to say that all people have something beautiful about them. I won’t say it because someone might pick it out and bash it so just know it think it. And so your gonna turn down a shidduch because someone doesn’t think the girl is pretty?!?! Gosh! And anyways, everyone has different tastes! Additionally, iyH after the skinny girl has kids, who says she will stay the same size?!? Would you rather have someone who is skinny or someone who bH has kids? like what once she’s fat you’re gonna drop her chas ve’shalom. (not that people aren’t necessarily skinny after they have children. Some things I always would love to answer a question like that is “Well before I answer you, I know that the girl actually had the same question as you. She wants to know what size YOU are because she only wants a mother in law who is a size two or four.” Or something like “is that’s what’s important to you? I don’t think she would want a mother in law who cares so much about those types of things. She doesn’t need a mother in law looking down her back to make sure she’s always skinny either. she doesn’t want that type of pressure.” I don’t know what I would say but I do know that if I get called up for shidduchim I would start off with a disclaimer ” Before you tell me the name of the girl that you want information about, I just want to let you know that I do NOT give information about looks/ weight.” That way if she asks you and you didn’t say that and the girl happens not to be gorgeous and not to be skinny, you’re not in an awkward situation that if you would say “oh I don’t answer questions like that” they might assume she’s fat/unattractive and that you are avoiding the question. Maybe there is a shidduch crisis because people are focusing more on the looks of the person then the looks of the inside of a person and who they are, not how much they weigh. It’s just an idea though I know that obviously that’s not the reason. Whatever the case, this whole post was just my view, I understand people have different view then me but either way, I wish everyone Hatzlacha in finding the right one quickly and without any pain or hardship for them and for their children…. Hatzlacha.
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