Reply To: DO NOT JUDGE PEOPLE!!!!!!!!!!!!

“I’ve heard it is totally muttar, but unwise since nobody will marry you.” – ha ha popa thats exactly right!!

Everyone i just want to say, ive just now come back to the thread, and the reactions are basically what i expected, some people think its my own fault for dressing like that, which is obviously true BUT! its NOT my fault that this happens to be the area i am struggling the most on, wheras other people in that crowd last night didnt have such a hard struggle in this area, but in more unnoticeable ways eg middos, and yes shmiras haloshon.

The fact is that when i am with another crowd who are not that careful with tznius, but things like peoples bad middos and shmiras haloshon gets them upset, so i conclude that people just feel comfortable with themselves and judge others on what is easy for them – someone who has really struggled with an issue, will NOT judge someone else on it, because they know how hard it is. So if you dont know about it then DONT give your opinion!

And all of you who are not women, tznius is VERY VERY hard, some harder than others depending on your tafkid, in another thread, i said its just as hard as for men to be learning all their spare time.

Thanks so much everyone who sympathized, you really made me feel better, thanx!!

And btw, my friend did not tell me which woman said it, (so i have a pick of a few in my mind), and she herself was shocked that somone could be like that, but she wanted me to realize what kind of crowd i was dealing with, and besides for that, she was feeling very self concsious for a totally unrelated reason, and we had been talking about people who check you out and yach about you, so it came in. Maybe not totally right, but im happy she did.

mdd- mind your own business is TOTALLY a jewish thing! Mah tovu?! We dont look into each others business, we let everyone live their own way. If we think its wrong, we can rebuke them in a PROPER way, like Sam4321 said.

I already said, i am totally for tochacha and protesting things that are against halacha, but in the correct way. ny100k – actually if she would have told me to my face it wouldnt have hurt half as much! Because then i could have explained myself, and made her understand me, AND it would have sunk in much more, i would have felt like, she really feels pained that i did that thing, and rebuke from the heart is very powerful. The fact that she did it behind my back, IS WHAT HURT. That shows that she was just after trying to put me down and didnt care about me at all.

Thanx aries i knew you would have something caring to say, and thanx everyone else! I really really appreciate it!