We must always make a kiddush hashem and treat all people with the proper kavod and respect. All people are made b’tzelem elokim.
Sadly, the waitress in question has experienced what many of us experience. I’ve worked so-called “goyishe” jobs in food service, retail, etc., alongside goyim, and even in a velvet kippah, tzitzit, a beard, long sideburns, I’ve been treated and spoken to rudely and abusively by other frum yidden.
Part of the tav hayosher program is to ensure that in food service jobs, we treat our workers fairly and with dignity. It is not just the goyim who are mistreated; there are Yidden who do these jobs also, and we should also be treated equitably.
I fully relate to and sympathize with the waitress, and I’d like to apologize. Like so many things, rachamana litzlan, the menuvals don’t represent all of us.