I completely agree! ( with the first part, not so much the therapy although it does work for some!)
It is so important to maintain good communication with your spouse as it is so much harder to work on your relationship once you have kids. BH we were blessed with a beautiful baby this passed summer, and it does take up most of our time/conversation! We resolve to just stay up very late so we have time to spend together and to talk about our days and everything else under the sun. My husband and I did date longer than I’m sure most people on this site, so we were lucky to have a lot of time together Doing fun things, now I’m lucky to have an amazing mother who ( when I feel like we need a date night) will come and watch our baby so we can grab dinner together.
Don’t feel like your relationship is in a bad place if your kids take over your life though. That’s what happens, it’s not just about you anymore. And that’s beautiful!