When he is telling and encouraging her to think of her career as more important then anything else that is pushing, and like I said, I never heard of a feminist who would marry a man, who would NOT do that.
That’s not pushing. That’s a woman saying “I want to do XYZ” and her husband supporting it.
Pushing would be a man saying to his wife “I want you to go through medical school” even if she doesn’t want to.