queens – great point!
Positivity is REALLY important, and I think our society in general really needs to work on that (or maybe it’s just me lol). I think people who don’t have as much trouble seeing the positive side of things often underestimate what effect they will have when they speak about the negative issues they have. They often don’t realize that some people (myself very much included) DO have trouble motivating themselves if they don’t have positive outside stimuli, and the overload of negative information can be very detrimental.
Having never been married, I can’t really speak for it from experience, but to me some of the main benefits are having someone to share everything with, through good times and not so good, to know that no matter what someone else is there for you, and to be that person for your spouse. And by having a spouse and raising a family, you very much feel like you are doing the right thing; that responsibility, while being difficult, gives you the strong sense that you are accomplishing and growing in this world. Knowing that other people are relying on you (and that you are providing for them) can bring a very satisfying and fulfilling feeling. And knowing that your spouse cares for you more than for anyone else in the world, and knowing that he/she knows that about you as well, is one of the most powerful feelings in the world. And of course there’s the satisfaction of seeing your children grow and learn.