“Not every guy in yeshiva past age 20 belongs there.
Have them go get some “real world” experience so they could bring something to the table (I.E. have some money saved so they could sit and learn for a year after marriage, or have a real degree that they can use for a decent paying job)
That way not every lazy guy with a decent reputation is holding out for the same 4 girls on the market.
Plus maybe leaving the yeshiva would force them to grow up a bit and realize that life ain’t easy and it ain’t cheap.”
Actually, probably 99% of young 20-year-olds DO belong in yeshiva. What DOESN’T belong are alot of these places that call themselves “yeshivos.”
“Real world experience” – “Ein leHakadosh Baruch Hu elah daled amos shel halacha” -the only thing “real” in this world is our relationship with hashem, which is achieved through learning how to truely believe in Him, learning musar and (for men) learning gemara be’iyun – reconnecting the connection we had at Har Sinai. These are not things you learn on “the street” or in “the real world” and these are not things one acquiress overnight, these are things one must “learn” how to acquire and spend his lifetime perfecting.
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