I love coffee, it’s not about me feeling like I have a limited life style. I don’t listen to this silly nonsense. I wear gold shoes and pink hats, I have Internet on my phone because I can control myself, I have a Facebook and no I’m not friends with guys who aren’t in my family / husbands family, I live my life according to how I see fit and try my best to follow what I believe Hashem wants me to do. I don’t tell other people what to do especially when there is no basis for it. If I see my friend c’v eating treif I would say something, but someone wearing a sweatshirt is none of our business. Just like someone wearing sheer tights or a fitted top isn’t our business. You do for you and let others do for them and in the end Hashem will let us know who was right.
And yes in general the yeshivish world can be a limited life style. Not in the sense that you are missing out on anything, but in the sense that there are a TON of rules to follow and it takes a great deal o effort to do it but that’s what we do. Why add on more rules and regulations when it’s not needed?