I sometimes do dances that are obviously meant to be provocative, if performed among men. I also sometimes listen to non-jewish music. This isn’t a confession, btw, there’s a point coming…
Being a good dancer and someone who really enjoys music doesn’t make things easier. But at least my sensitivities aren’t dulled to a point where I don’t see anything wrong with it. There is a reason why I would be shocked beyond words if I saw the wife of our Rav dancing like that, or listening to non-jewish music. And I hope one day I will be strong enough to stop doing both.
All I’m saying is, if you find it hard to stop, trust me, I get it. But don’t pretend that there’s no problem with it.