You complained of husbands who “work for years on end in dead end jobs that don’t bring home sufficient income to cover basic needs despite the wife working also. Men who independently choose to stay in their beloved carreer because they’re convinced that despite a decade or more of struggle and tears that their next dollar is just around the corner.”
That is not divorcable grounds. He is entitled to make that decision and if he chooses to continue working there, that is his decision whether she agrees with it or otherwise. She has to live with it.