It is true that lumping OTD situations together is often unjustified and uninformative. What it does tell us is that our community has lost the strength to hold onto its youth and that the problem starts with the adults in their lives. And don’t bore me with the ridiculous, usually untruthful line about dysfunctional families. It’s sometimes true, but very, very often it is not.
The community has never had the strength to hold onto its youth. Since the emancipation of European Jews, there have always been a significant proportion of people who did not remain frum; and at times it was the vast majority who didn’t.
Of course, we always have to work on improving on the job that we’re doing, but it’s simply false to pretend that it’s worse than ever.