FANATICS: YOU ARE THE ONES RESPONSIBLE FOR DRIVING YOUR KIDS OTD!
Actually Rabbi Steven Pruzansky claims to have seen a study that half of MO go OTD. Although he suggests, and he’s undoubtedly correct, that those numbers are skewed (based on who is defined as frum to begin with), there’s nobody who suggests that the rate of kids who go OTD in the chassidish and yeshivish communities is even remotely close.
Kids don’t go OTD from frumkeit. They go OTD because of emotional trauma, and normal parents can hold extremely high standards of frumkeit, and if the relationship is healthy, it won’t cause OTD. If the relationship is not healthy, even if the standards of frumkeit are low, the kids are still at high risk.
The causal reltionship suggested by some here between following halachah, or even “chumra”, and OTD is total bogus, and I strongly suspect is being used to justify inadequate adherance to halachah.