DaasYochid –
I apologize for not being able to respond that often or get more in to detail; I am very busy lately.
I have not looked over the entire thread to see your exchange with Sam, but for now let me just say that any pshat that says beged isha is not purely defined by the time and place is a big dochek. This is very clear when you learn the sugya in Nedarim and the Tur / Beis Yosef / Mechaber / Rema etc.
More later, hopefully.