Calee:
“Also, i was thinking maybe it has to do with the fact that he’s so excited and so forward–before he told me all this, i had no idea he was feeling this way, i couldnt tell how interested he was. and thats when i did feel attraction.
but now that he told me, i find myself being a bit put off. is that a problem? is it something i can work on? “
Sure, this is all part of “not ‘letting’ you.”
And yes, you can definitely work on it but it will be HARD work. The good news is, that everything else you mentioned, especially about this guy seems awesome so the hard work will pay off.
Start with trying to figure out where this is coming from. It might take a while for you to realize. Maybe an adult that knows you well can help you a little. If you have a mentor see if you can discuss this with your mentor.