C – I had a similar situation before I got engaged in that I did not feel “chemistry” with the man I was dating. We seemed to have a lot in common and similar goals and all that. I wasn’t sure he was “the one”, but it seemed to be. I did make sure that I was not “unattracted” to him, but I did not feel any particular chemistry. He told me to make sure if I had any issues then we should discuss them on our next date. I spoke to someone I’m close to, who told me that it seemed like we were ready to close things. Boy, that came as such a shock, since I hadn’t really realized how far along things were, but looking back, it should have been obvious. Now on our 7th date – which was after about 6 weeks, I realized what he was thinking and he was basically just waiting for me to be on the same page. It gave me a bit of a rush and I realized that I just needed to commit. I did and we got engaged. The next week, when I realized what kind of commitment we had just made to each other, it was such a powerful aphrodisiac as it were that all of the chemistry I hadn’t been feeling came on in a big rush. It felt much better at that point. Probably the fact that we weren’t committed to each other yet had held me back from feeling those feelings, which I probably subconsciously had been keeping myself from feeling out of some fear of rejection and then when I was no longer being rejected, they were able to come to the surface.
Hatzlacha with making your decision.