Reply To: Friend in shidduchim with an eating disorder

I’ve suggested a diet plan but she told me she wouldn’t be able to stick to it. That she’d just freak out and either not eat or over eat. So I don’t know what else to suggest.

Another problem I have is that I do know she needs to lose some weight for health reasons that got my previous answer deleted but at the same time there’s no way that starving herself is the way to go.

I brought up the subject today and she said she’s in control which I’d like to believe, but of course there’s no way to know. Then she said that she’s gaining weight and I didn’t know what to say because like I said I do know that she is supposed to lose a significant amount of weight, but in a healthy, balanced way, not by restricting hugely and exercising to negate the rest of the calories eaten that day. And while I don’t want her to go back to that, I don’t know what to say when she tells me she’s gaining, because I don’t want her thinking I’m trying to make her fat or something and shutting me out too.

I think I’ll suggest trying a meal plan again tomorrow, but she already told me she doesn’t think that she’d be able to stick to it, so I don’t know.