for us out-of-towners (OOT’s), the shidduch crisis is doubly difficult and devastating for girls. the girls have no dates- that is ZERO (0), and shadchonim are busy with NY girls, NJ girls and wealthy girl families. boys aren’t interested in dating OOT girls if they can just date one in Lakewood or NY where they are learning. why travel, why the expense, if they have girls right in their backyards to date!?
and that’s the trouble.
almost all the boys are condensed into one area of the world (NY, NJ) and it is soooo difficult for OOT parents to get information on these prospective shidduchim. even boys originally from OOT change over the years, and is difficult to get information on their current status from old neighbours and friends.
perhaps a solution could be:
if an OOT shadchan(from each city) HAS A CONTACT (in LKWD or NY), from whom he can get information about boys, so that he can rehd them to OOT girls. it is getting too difficult and too frustrating waiting and waiting in order to get some information DIRECTLY from these LKWD and NY shadchonim.
any thoughts from other OOT parents/girls?