shopping – Emotional blackmail is when you try and use a person’s emotions against them in order to achieve a goal. You used your being upset as an integral part of a discussion in order to make the other party (SelichosGnendel/yekke2) feel bad and come round to your side of the argument, despite the fact that they may or may not have a valid point. You ignored the point and simply said “You’re being mean and I’m upset, so you’d better be nice to me and take back what you’ve said or I’ll leave”. In other words, you used your emotions, and thus theirs too, as a bargaining chip. Whether you did this deliberately or not I don’t know (and will have to assume not as this is what you have claimed) but it is what you did.
Just one small point though. You left because you felt people were being inconsiderate yet on your very first post back you insulted someone for nothing more than being male (and I have a feeling that littlefishy is actually female anyway):
ya, let me guess, you are a boy who does not understand self-estteem, having good relashenshipz, and do not have sensitive feelings like girls.
I hope you understand that boys understand both self-esteem and good relationships and also that they most definitely do have sensitive feelings. Boys are, after all, humans too.