Oh Shreck: Its nice that you judge others favorably. Yidden always gawk, but not because of concern. (you can say, “oy i feel terrible! let me say some tehillim!” while continuing to walk away. Standing and staring is not concern) Its because of nosiness. Everyone has to know everyone else’s business and have the juiciest gossip to share. Its a terrible thing and needs to stop!
golfer: It’s a terrible thing that happened to you about a hatzalah member violating your privacy. But I think you should not have mentioned the organization due to an isolated incident (i hope!) As a wife of a hatzalah member, i am the last to find out anything! There could be an accident on my block, or he responded to a call from a family member, and i will never know about it until someone else tells me about it. And i know that my husband is not the only one who follows this law.
I have to admit though that everyone is natuarally curious when an accident occurs. When driving and you are stuck in traffic becasuse of an accident, why is it that for miles before teh accident is there so much traffic? Because as people pass the one or 2 lanes that are open near the accident, they slow to a crawl adn stare for a few seconds. After you pass the accident, you can drive at a normal speed.