Reply To: I Cry That I Don't Cry

Some people need to cry because that is their outlet for expressing emotions, and that is healthy for them. Others find crying unnatural, and far from being cathartic, it just leads to feelings of guilt and self-loathing as they wonder “what is wrong with me that I cannot cry”. There is nothing wrong with it. Writing in a journal, using a punching bag, making music, etc. are all valid ways of coping with grief. One doesn’t have to cry, and one shouldn’t get caught up in “why can’t I cry” rather than finding an alternate coping mechanism.