TlIk: Exactly. That’s pretty much what I said in my post, which is why even if hochayach tochiyach applies, you can hochayach people all you want, but you CAN’T force them to do anything.
DY: Yes, women should dress tzniusdigly. If they do or not can affect men. (And we’re NOT getting into that whole argument again, please.) But you can’t FORCE women to dress a certain way. You don’t have the authority and it’s between them and the RBSh”O.
I dress perfectly tzniusdigly for my community’s and family’s standards. Would I walk into Meah Shearim or maybe even Lakewood dressed how I do normally in the summer (LONG slinky biz, graphic tee, weird ponytail)? Probably not (and I didn’t, in the case of Meah Shearim- actually, I’m not sure what I would do if I ever went to Lakewood- I’ve never been yet so I never had the opportunity to decide). But on my turf, I’m completely comfortable dressing as I do, and if you walk in and scream, “Where’s the Vaad HaTznius?”, sorry, but you can’t stop me from doing anything. It’s between me and Hashem after a certain point.