“it’s not lo sasuru because we are not looking at the men to look at the men.”
Yes, and if a man looked at a woman “not in order to look at a woman” it would still be assurm, which proves me point. If a man went to a cheerleaders game, that would be a big problem.
“I am not arguing with the halacha” “The “spirit of the halacha” is also a consideration.”
Yes it is. I thought this was an halachic issue we were discussing. I think it is great that you are concerned with the spirit of the halacha.