philosopher:
My point is that if you decide to do someone a chesed dont expect to get something back. If you cant give without expecting something back that may be something that you personally need to work on. The reason why people who work with OTD are successful is because they do it for the kid. Not their own ego to feel good. If you are focused on the other person you dont care that you dont get the thank you and if they dont appreciate.
How many people do ANYTHING for their kids even though 99% of kids do not appreciate what is done for them?
Thats the idea. You give becaus eyou love the person and want to help them regardless of how much appreciation you will get.
Obviously if you are not up to the task dont get involved. Nobody says you have to be involved with OTD kids if you dont have what it takes.