Forgiving definitely doesn’t mean “forgetting”. I feel it’s more like letting go of hard feelings you may have towards someone and moving on. You can still feel anger about the situation, but not towards the person who caused it. There is a quote that goes something like “G-d doesn’t give you the people you want, He gives you the people you need. To help you, to hurt you, to leave you, to love you, and to make you the person you were meant to be.”
Being new here, I’ve picked up some vibes of who is who and what is what, but I have no idea what Oh Shreck! was preaching about nor what you’ve went through. You don’t have to become best friends with someone that hurt you, but if you have a hard time standing in the same room, you’ve got yourself a problem.