1. Who says everything on your list is actually good for you? We have a nice imagination and think what American Society tells us is good for us is truly good for us, but thankfully Hashem saves us from ourselves.
2. Who says work means that it’s not as good? Its the hard work that makes you enjoy the thing you worked for. Easy come easy go. If you work hard at your marriage you can withstand little annoyances and not blow things out of proportion and our learn to be giving and forgiving. I think it’s actually the work that gives the pleasure and creates the love. The reason why parents love their kids more than kids love their parents is because the parents gave heart and soul to these kids and put tons of blood sweat and tears into their upbringing. That hard work is what creates love and a strong relationship.