Reply To: Up Close And Personal

Please try not to give me obvious advice like, did you try diet and exercise?(the answer is of course, but I’m not always consistent) Or, it’s the inside qualities that really matter. That is 100% true, but both sides ALSO want to LIKE how the other person looks; it’s the reality. And while in Russia, we over-40’s would simply seem “healthy” and maybe even “kraseeva”….here, the standard for “healthy-looking” can be quite different. By the way, before my filter was adjusted, I once stumbled upon a BEAUTIFUL mussar shmuz by a young blogger on how grateful we must be for our bodies: SICK PEOPLE, suffering physically, WOULD TRADE WITH US IN A SECOND. And we women criticize ourselves to death, over perceived flaws that aren’t even so awful… I don’t know if she is even Jewish but her name is “Nicole Kellerman”.