Oomis: Flip side being, hitting them with the full magnitude of the responsibility isn’t going to encourage them to get married.”
Perhaps, but that is something that I see specific to the present generation. It certainly was not the case when I got married nearly 37 years ago. Our generation (we old folk) have spoiled many of our children by infantilizing them, making all their decisions for them (even before they get to go out on a date, we are selecting and rejecting their potential shidduchim, sometimes based on the most shallow and foolish criteria), and always bailing them out andnot letting them learn to stand on their own two feet. Once in a while, this is a help to one’s children. But time and again to do so – it does them no favor.