Holy b, to answer your question- Yes, this does make sense. But I wish you’d have done some proofreading; your ” % ” showing up in odd places had me confused.
Akuperm, on the other hand is not making much sense. Are you suggesting we wait until the kids are adults to straighten out things between them and their fathers (or mothers, in some cases)?
It’s important to do everything possible to maintain a warm, loving relationship between the children and both of their parents (unless we’re dealing with a psychopath, or other severely disturbed parent), the mother’s anger notwithstanding.
Husbands and wives both play their own ugly, indefensible games in the midst of a divorce- husbands by withholding a get; wives by withholding child custody and/or visitation. Unfortunately, both sides sometimes play the game of poisoning the child’s relationship with the other spouse.
There is definitely a need for intervention by Rabbonim and mental health care professionals to the advantage of both parents and children. The solutions are not simple. And finding them in an online discussion, or even in the pages of our venerable magazines, is highly unlikely.