A child in the parsha shopuld make up his or her own mind, but do so respectfully, even while disagreeing with the parents.
18 today is not mature enough of an age for most kids to get married. 18, 100 years ago meant kids who worked hard from their earliest years to run the farm, run the business, help momma with the younger kids, and a whole host of things that matured them much faster than today’s kids. They also were less spoiled, listened to their parents obediently, and were smeichim b’chelkam.
Today’s kids are a ME generation, that want instant gratification. They want to think of themselves as kollel families, but are not happy to live what is meant to be a kollel life. They want to sit and learn, but not to be concerned with the money tree that does not grow in their backyards. They want to have lots of kids, but not take care of them without nannies, because it’s “too hard,” or “not fulfilling.” Above all, they do not have a clue about working through problems, and when those problems inevitably crop up, as they do in most marriages, they want to cut and run.