TAOM- I’m soooooo glad your getting more invovled in chessed! It is totally my escape from the world as well and I love it!
I think you are approaching this very maturely, but I don’t want you to take my advice wrong (not that you have to take it, but i’d just like to clarify what I’m saying). As someone who is going through deep challenges with my parents, it is definitly a big shkoyach to you to for looking at their positive traits. As you get older, you recognize your parents are human just like you, but they are always going to be your parents. I agree with this, but I am only saying that it is still important to have someone as a mentor, that you can go to when times get hard or to just get advice from, or vent to. Yes you can take the positive approach and put a smile on, and you should, you deserve it! But doesn’t mean you need to run away from your problems cuz they will only come back to haunt you.
As you know, every great Rebbe had his own great Rebbe! We cannot assume well just be fine, we need mentors! Even for the sake of just shmoozing life not venting!
Sorry if I seemed like I was imposing advice on you, I genuinly just want you to be happy in the inside and out, not just pushing your probelms aside like they dont exist! You seem amazing!