DY: “On a bit of a deeper level, if their commitment to the RS”O is real (or to whatever extent it’s real) their relationship with each other will be important to them because it is important to the RS”O.”
This quote scarily reminds me of monastic rhetoric. People’s relationships with the spouses (spice?) is about each other. If it was only about Hashem, it wouldn’t matter who you married (or if you married at all). It would be very 1984-esque. You marry because the country needs people, not because the relationship matters.
I’m not saying that spousal relationship trumps HKBH in any way. I’m saying that HKBH made us so that we need (and should have) relationships with spouses that are personal, shared love of HKBH notwithstanding.