It’s about reverse psychology and giving them choices within what you allow.
After a wedding my 4 yr old wanted to go home with Bubby, we live in different cities, and I gave him a choice you can go by yourself with Bubby but Mommy and Totty are going home or come home with us. He ended up having a meltdown and picked himself up and got into our car.
It’s not a great comparison, but I think it could work with teenagers too.