It’s really hard to give advice, not knowing what happened here. Let me say this, as the person who broke off a 10 year friendship with someone who hurt my family and me deeply, publicly, and without reason, some hurts cannot be repaired. Fact of life. Sometimes “sorry” is not enough. If you have tried sincerely to set things right, perhaps written more than one letter (NOT
E-MAIL), acknowledged what you did wrong and asked for forgiveness, that is all you can do. You may have to accept that this girl will never want to be friends again. If that is the case, learn a valuable lesson from what happened, and resolve to not make the same mistake a second time.
I feel sad for the pain you must be feeling right now, but try to think of the level of pain you may have unintentionally caused the other girl, for her to not be quite ready to forgive you or speak to you. It’s not about you and how you feel, at this point. And if her mom is involved, she may be giving her “chizuk” to avoid you, probably with all the best of intentions, wanting to protect her child from further hurt at your hands. I don’t mean to sound judgmental. I can see that you feel great regret, and that is to your credit. But as I said, sometimes sorry is just not enough.
I hope you can work things out with her, but if for whatever reason, that is not in the cards, at least please understand that we all have to be really careful about what we say and do, because there are sometimes permanent ramifications as a result of them. And then, move on. Let some time pass, and try to approach her again, when she has had some time to cool down a little. She might miss you, too.
Hatzlacha rabbah