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A good Voch everyone(or Shavua Tov). I met a guy in shul tonight from out of town but related to someone here. He introduced himself to me and I likewise did the same. Then he said “‘Sender Av’, why do I know that name? Oh, I Know! Did you apply to ‘X’ yeshiva in Monsey and ‘Y’ yeshiva in Israel”? A little surprised I answered that I in fact did and asked him how he knew that. He said he had dealing with one or both(I didn’t really catch that part) Yeshivas and the person who I spoke to at one of the yeshivas asked this guy if he knew who I was since he has relatives in Atlanta. He said he asked a couple of people about me(and heard only good things). I find this frustrating. I don’t want where or if I am applying to yeshivas to be other peoples business, and did he tell other people who he asked about me why he is asking about me? I was really distracted in davening afterward. I might as well get a facebook account and tell everyone my personal business myself.
Ps. It would be funny if hes reading this, but I would doubt it.
I don’t see why the Yeshiva doing its due diligence in researching applicants qualifications for the school as a problem. So them asking others information is to be expected. Essentially his knowing what he knew should not have been a problem. Though it was tactless on his part to let you know what he knew. He should have just been quiet and not mentioned it.
i agree with peacemaker- the fact that they called to find out about you is normal and good that they are making sure to accept the right ppl, but i dont think he should have told you. But you are in the jewish world, where everybody knows everybody and these things are bound to happen. We just have to learn to live with it. Sorry!
Hilarious facebook comment. I was laughing out loud..
its part of belonging to the frum world. its dead annoying when everyone knows everything about you ive had too much experience of that myself 🙁 but its still worth it to belong to the frum community i think!
I think they have a right to find out about you but this almost sounds like shidduchim…
I hear ya.
Lol welcome to the REAL jewish world from applying ur kid to preschool and all the way up till shidduchim they check u out so there r no secrets in this world and u have no idea who knows ur secrets!! But tHen again u want to check pp out if want urself or ur child to be in the right seviva and not just to except anybody! Btw if u think asking queations about shidduch u should hear what they ask about u to get into a school
“(and heard only good things)”
Consider yourself among the lucky ones 🙂
Even if you are not applying to yeshivot, Jewish geography is something that an outsider could never understand. It seems that everyone knows somebody who knows somebody who is related to your mother’s third cousin on her father’s side that came from the next shtetl. It never ends and if you live in a relatively small Jewish community (about 18,000) like I do, things like this are ten times more likely to happen. I recently received an email about being Jewish here and one of the points on it was that at any wedding you attend, at least three people from the bride’s side are related to people on the groom’s side. We have to fact the fact that in overall society, the Jewish world is small. However, the fellow you met showed bad taste in telling you what he did. He should have remained shtum.
There are only six Jews. The rest is done with mirrors.
Wouldn’t you need 7 to have six degrees of separation?
the seventh is done with mirrors, too.
I actually never thought about it at the time I posted earlier. My parents met because my father’s sister married my mother’s first cousin and they thought that my parents should meet each other. Then, another of my mother’s first cousin’s wife’s aunt married my uncle (father’s brother) – so we are related and related and related. Have I got you all confused now? My first cousins on my father’s side are my third cousins on my mother’s side. NOW, have you got it?
My grandfather had two brothers, and my grandmother had two sisters.
Two of the brothers married two of the sisters. I think genetically that makes the cousins like siblings…
One brother and one sister never married (anyone, never mind each other). The unmarried sister is 93? and has outlived them all.
Sender Av: We are ALL related. Like it or not the Klal is a family – rich, poor, frum and secular – we are all one family. So who is having the family seder next Pesach?
I think this is all just part of Jewish Geography.
There are only six Jews. The rest is done with mirrors.
This is the winner for this thread. Hands down. Probably this week.
Kol Yisrael areivim zeh lazeh.
we have kohanim in the family, and one of them named a daughter Miriam, after her great(to the nth power) aunt, Miriam HaNivia.
happens all the time. someone just called me yesterday to ask me if I happen to know a girl who was in my high school but shes not sure if she was in my grade or I would know her….the girl happens to be one of my closest friends!
That is why, in any article about our community in a newspaper, they’ll have: ‘said Miriam, who didn’t want to give her last name.’ You don’t want to face three Minyanim teasing you on your public comment as you walk into Shul for the next three weeks.
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