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  • #1928219
    Yt
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    Hello everyone, I’m almost 17 I just cut my Peyot off after having them since I was three. I did it because they are very annoying. My parents aren’t very happy and think I’m going OTD and I feel real guilty now, was it wrong what I did

    #1928251
    Reb Eliezer
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    David Hamelech says protect me as I am a chasid. A chasid needs special protection to watch not to sway from customs as he does more than required, the border becomes fuzzy and it is hard to distinguish what was added over halacha. If someone never had long peyot is no problem but once you had it for some time, you must scrutinize your action to understand the reason cutting it and be careful not to violate any other customs.

    #1928258
    a pashute yid
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    So? What shaychis?

    #1928260
    1a2b3c
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    I would suggest that you visibly increase your שמירת המצות in other ways, so that your parents see that you are still a fine Jew. That would allay their fears and be a special כיבוד אב ואם at the same time.

    #1928284
    smerel
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    So grow them back.

    I’m not saying whether you should have long payes or not but if you had them since you were three then apparently your parents want you to. You should realize that it is very hurtful for them to see you cut them off. So act with sensitivity.

    I would say the same thing to someone whose parents are in circles where their son growing long payos is embarrassing or frowned at.

    #1928302
    commonsaychel
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    In Internet slang, a troll is a person who starts flame wars or intentionally upsets people on the Internet by posting inflammatory and digressive,[1] extraneous, or off-topic messages in an online community (such as a newsgroup, forum, chat room, or blog) with the intent of provoking readers into displaying emotional responses[2] and normalizing tangential discussion,[3] either for the troll’s amusement, or to achieve a specific result such as disrupting a rival’s online activities or manipulating a political process.
    a/k/a a person who just joined a week ago and never posted anthing besides this

    #1928328
    straightshooter1000
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    This is a loaded topic and this board will only help minimally. There must be a million details that need to be disclosed to answer this. Please get proper Torah guidance from someone who is qualified to deal with this issue. Daven that you can get someone to help you and your family through this. Under no circumstances should you navigate this on your own.

    #1928412
    Todros Gimpel
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    Are you actually going OTD?
    It seems that you are guilty for upsetting your parents.
    Another question. If not for your parents, would you have found the Peyos annoying?

    #1928419
    Swings
    Participant

    Welcome to the real world.

    #1928433
    MosheFromMidwood
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    Sadly it probably would be more a communal reaction that might bother you. Among chasidim, it certainly would SEEM shaving off peyos means OTD, so I don’t know how you can overcome that perception unless you grow them back. On the other hand, if you feel peyos are an annoyance, you have to ask yourself is it symbolic of something else. You can still be a good frum Jew without being a chasid.

    #1928462
    meir G
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    this post is such a fake
    1. anyone familiar with bochurim in this predicament know that they dont post such short , matter of fact & coherent paragraphs,
    2. regardless if peyos is important or not , the step of cutting them is huge emotionally and almost never done in a stable moment
    3. they also dont anounce im going off the d , and
    4. dont ask coffeeroom about guilt
    there does exist confused souls in desperate need of guidance but this post isnt one of them

    #1928463
    meir G
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    one more point no boy cuts his peyos because they are “annoying” when its done its a statement of breaking loose its not the curls themselves

    #1928473
    Yaapchik
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    It is very hurtful to parents. Did they deserve such a potch? How badly could they have treated you to get that from their beloved son? Please apologize to them. Tell them you love them and that you regret what you did because you know that they’re hurt. Please do this at once! Every night they cry about it – I’m a parent and I know!

    #1928483

    My odest cut his peyos when he was a child. We didn’t make a big deal about it. He never grew them back and now that he is a father his 3 1/2 year old has peyos. I don’t have long peyos. Of all my sons only my second son kept his peyos.

    #1928486
    commonsaychel
    Participant

    why bother give a troll what he is looking for

    #1928497
    Health
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    Zs -“I’m almost 17 I just cut my Peyot off after having them since I was three.”

    Don’t worry about it.
    My son did it.
    I know a lot of guys that had them as kids, but chopped them off as Adults.
    It’s a Free World!

    #1928502
    Dr. E
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    When someone in that situation is shoyel eitza from me, I suggest doing this gradually. First, cut off one side and wait a month; and then, only if the parents are maskim, cut off the other side after being mattir neder. Also, when donning the shayla, one should go back two generations and follow-what the Zeideh did. If the father picked it up later in life, then it’s not the family minhag.

    #1928533
    ☕️coffee addict
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    Hey commonsaychel,

    Either you saychel isn’t that common in the CR or it gives people an outlet besides politics (which has become bland if you ask me)

    Let em have some fun

    #1928593
    Shmili_OOngar
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    cofee addict I’m totally maskim. i used to love the coffee room before the past few months when it has become almost all politics. Who else misses the good old days when we talked about other things?

    #1928597
    🍫Syag Lchochma
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    I do!!!
    But if you enjoyed the CR before the past few months, you must have had a different screen name. This ine is only 4 months old.

    #1928696
    ☕️coffee addict
    Participant

    Wow!

    Thanks to Dr. E I realized that you can edit the link for website on your homepage from a Ywn profile page to a page that people can really contact you on (if you want to do that)

    #1928801
    akuperma
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    With peyos, you’ll never be able to pass as a goy.

    And whenever you did an averah be-tzibbur, it will be a hillul ha-Shem (one can always wear a hat rather than a kippah, and many goyim have beads, but no way to hide the peyos).

    #1928817
    Shmili_OOngar
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    Syag Lchochma- ya i made this account more recently. i had a different one, but one of my friends went on it and wrote some pretty wack stuff, so it got banned.

    #1928824
    Reb Eliezer
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    akuperma, why can’t you weave it together and hide it behind the ears so it is not seen as many do?

    #1928822
    🍫Syag Lchochma
    Participant

    Seriously!?! That’s not just a cover story? (Just kidding) so… care to give us a clue?

    #1928854
    Reb Eliezer
    Participant

    Used the wrong word above should be braid not weave.

    #1929085
    The Rebbitzen
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    yt
    if ur looking for attention, ur in the wrong place man.
    troll!!!

    #1930008
    heiliger yidele
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    this sounds like a bunch of yeshiva bochurim having fun… i am starting to suspect that this is what it is

    #1930229
    Shmili_OOngar
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    heileger yidele- haha i think you’re right. I’m a yeshiva bachur xd

    #1930941
    Yt
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    I wasn’t with anyone and I’m being serious, but i see I chose the wrong place

    #1930955
    commonsaychel
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    @YT, yes this place is not for bored teen trolls

    Better here than elsewhere.

    #1930963
    Yt
    Participant

    Honestly wasn’t trolling but ok

    #1931120
    Mottel
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    on the topic of fun, how do u curl your peyos? ;););)

    #1931226
    Yt
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    I’m not a chossid 🤷‍♂️

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