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  • #596213
    Sender Av
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    My mother’s A’H yartzeit is coming up and I have never fasted before for it but am now thinking about it. Just curious does anyone else fast, what other customs do you do?

    #757565
    RABBAIM
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    Generally Litvish fast because the Mogen Avraham says to fast. Many Chassishe don’t and give a Lchayim so people can make Brachos liluy nishmas.

    #757566
    My .02
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    I’m not so sure fasting is recommended in our day. People make a siyum, and speak about the nifteres. If someone is inspired by hearing about her meritious deeds and decides to emulate her, it brings an aliyah to her neshama. Any acts of rightiousness that you do having in mind that you are inspired by your Mother A”H is a big zchus for her. May the neshama have an aliya and may we be zoche to umacha H-shem dimah meyal kol ponim.

    #757567
    seeallsides
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    is it in nissan? because i think that you may want to check if you are allowed to fast.

    jewishmourningguide.com/yahrzeit/yahrzeit-outside-shul/

    yahrtzeit candle

    fast (but say it’s only for this year)

    give tzedaka-

    try to have as many siyumim as possible

    give ‘tikkun’ (whiskey,orange juice, coffee cake, rugelach)

    get inspired to do teshuva in the niftar’s zchus.

    #757568
    MHY
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    Sefer Yesodei Semachos says that one should fast between amud hashachar and nightfall, the note on which gives the makor as the Rama, who brings it from earlier sources (Yoreh Deah Siman 402, halacha yud beis).

    Yes, people who follow the Rama fast.

    #757569
    ItcheSrulik
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    IIRC the mechaber brings it too.

    #757570
    aries2756
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    My Parents never fasted, my in-laws never fasted. So WE don’t fast.

    #757571
    gefen
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    On the topic of yarzeits, do people refrain from going to a simcha if it falls out on a parent’s yarzeit?

    #757572
    gefen
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    my father’s yarzeit is on Asara B’teves – already a fast day. My mother’s is not on a fast day. The first few years I did try to fast on those days, but then it got hard, so I don’t. I like the idea of making a kiddush/siyum and taking on mitzvos as an aliyah for the neshama.

    #757573
    Be Happy
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    Do something special that you know would bring Nachas and would be a zechus for your mother A”H

    #757574
    Sender Av
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    Seeallsides is right. I happened to hear in a Pesach shiur I was listening to earlier that we dont fast in Nisan. If I only heard it before I posted(which I actually did, but did not really pick that part up as pertaining to me..must be Pesach cleaning getting the best of me).

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