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Is it incredibly close minded of me to be very surprised at the fact that the question here is not that your date might have a Facebook page at all, which for me would be problematic at best, but whether it’s OK to look at it?
#(I have a half a mind to answer you in latin, but poor mods…)
It isn’y close minded of you, It’s a matter of hashkafic standpoints…
I remember last year, I was in my teacher’s lounge, and one teacher was telling the other about someone redt to her son, and how she was checking her facebook pictures. I remember then thinking how different it is for me, (that was when I just started dating…)
But, unfortunately I feel like so many more people have facebook today for so many different reasons. Be it work, discounts… (I dated one guy who told me he only has facebook for candy crush lives…)
It used to be very important to me that the guy I marry should not have social media such as facebook, instagram, snapchat…. It still is, but, I find it much harder to say no to a guy because it is so prevalent and needed in so many ways…
It may be similar to texting… I remember when I got texting in 9th grade, I was the bum of the school… Now who makes a deal about it?
There was an article in the most recent Jewish action magazine that was about this topic, it was in relation to the halachos of lashon harah.
Tibi adsentior, plerumque (I’ve gotta stop that). But texting is not quite the same as Facebook, for there is no question that one is far more of a poretz geder than the other.
I think you learn a lot about what the person feels about relationships . Like one time I googled a guy and it was like a lot of inappropriate and abusive pictures and language and I was like okay is that how he is going to see me.
i am always careful with what I post but yah you can learn a lot from people’s fb and google plus.
I knew a story with someone who broke off a shidduch after googling and finding out he was already married.
Idiots never considered there may be two people named yosef shmuel schwartz.
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