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please post any tips/hints.
kapusta: hint/tips on what? we gatta know what your talking about!
tips or hints related to what?
cooking…
sewing…
housekeeping…
career search…
shidduchim…
choosing a Yeshiva…
how to annoy a Moderator…
please be more specific. thanks
72: yeah thanx!
choosing a yeshiva
tips on how to annoy a moderator? We all know how to do that, no tips necessary.
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kinda vague,kapusta!
how about tips on kibud av v’eim? sometimes i find it so hard to bite back nasty comments that i know shouln’t be said and i know cause my parents so much pain! any tips?
hi100, thats hard for me too. I have a very sharp tongue.
My advice is to pause before you say your sharp retort. It wont always stop you, but it does give you an extra second or so to stop yourself. It gets easier.(I use this at work ALL the time)
Cleaning tip: don’t make the house dirty and you won’t have to clean as much 😀
hi100: Try thinking postitively of your parents and your words will reflect your thoughts. Try it, it works! (I know the opposite does!)
here’s my issue, that i need a helpful hint with!
i’m all serious btw about this! months back when i did kapparos-with chickens(you know in some backyards in Boro Park, floors are all dirty, smelly, they shecht the chickens there, & chop them up…) i had on a pair of shoes & they got all dirty and smelly from chicken gook! it’s been months now & those shoes still reek like the kapparos place! i cleaned them really well, used soap & water, sprayed them with bathroom deodorizer, left them out to air for days, yet nothing works! i have not wore them since then & really like them & don’t want to throw them out! yeah i do have many others shoes, don’t worry!
what can i do to get the awful smell away?!
try baking powder – that is what people put in the fridge to absorb odors.
Trash them, unless they’re ferragamo shoes and you can’t afford another pair.
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72: thank maybe i’ll try it!
anonymisss: i can afford others b”h, i do have many other shoes, yet like these & they did cost a lot! but yeah!
Jax, use money next time 😉
beacon: good one! 😉
yeah, jax, from that bottomless pit of cash, right? 😉
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anonymisss: yes, correct!
Jax, maybe a fabric deodorizer such as Febreze would help.
anon for this: i tried that, but thank you!
about that kibud av v’eim thing….someone might want to do something or say something to spite their parents and to hurt them, but in the end theyre hurting themselves even more in so many ways, it’s not worth it. Just something to keep in mind.
BYM, nice except that most of us don’t think along those lines when we’re upset.
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that’s why it’s something to work on.
when we’re speaking loshon hora most of us don’t think about it while we’re saying it and then stop because we realize we’re speaking L’H. that’s not an excuse to say ok i won’t even try, that needs to be worked on also.
most things in life don’t come easily 🙂
kapusta: by the time you’d get out the camera and find someone to record it, you’d realize how ridiculous it all is and the argument would be over before it even started! Great idea!
72: my shoes have been sitting since motzei shobbos with baking powder in them! no luck yet, they still smell real bad! my mom wants me to trash them!
kapusta: then the issue would be my shoes smell like onions!
mama says trash them, then trash them. done
ok Jax – but no more discussion on the Shoes
I see that someone here read “Holes”!
hydrogen peroxide takes out blood stains
epoxy glue placed around the holes of tziziz begadim keeps them from tearing
learn mussar every day
Jax – clean them with Pet Odor Remover –
any advice on dealing with parents taking their bad moods out on you?
That happens to me all the time. Just listen and be quiet and once in a while say you’re right your’re right. All they want is to feel right so just tell them that they’re right and they’ll be quiet. It works with me. try it.
AOB
milkshakes.
(milkshakes are very similar to what little kids view band-aids as.)
AOB: What might work for you, don’t try answering back. When someone vents out at you (especially when its not your fault) and you keep quiet and just look straight at them, they eventually cool down. Worked by me! Good luck!
thanks guys. being quiet & just saying you’re right does help a bit i think, but it’s really hard for me 🙁
also, venting i can deal with, it’s more than that. for example, last night i was on the computer as always at the normal time i am, & my father was tired & stressed i guess & in a bad mood, so he just decided that it was time for me to get off the computer. nobody needed it & it wasn’t especially late, he just got it into his head that that’s what i need to do. that wasn’t the first time that type of thing happened, & it’s really really frustrating when parents take advantage of their absolute power. that’s what i was asking about.
moish: yeah, milkshakes are real good but i’m usually too lazy to make myself one 😉
AOB: just get out of the house- and come back when it’s good mood time again
hi100: i wish!!! here’s where i’m jealous of moish 😉 no license very soon & usually when i have issues with them i can’t just walk out.
aob: i know exactly what you mean….when my parents get in those moods i just stuff my ears with my ipod, and disappear
AOB- you can hook up with me and when both of our parents are making our lives tough, we can go out together
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