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  • #600674

    What’s the halacha of a half brother? Are you allowed to touch? sing? be untznius? how untznius? pajamas?

    #828766

    absolutely NOT!!!! although I wonder if you could halachicly marry him…

    #828767
    SaysMe
    Member

    How about a non-local OR? 🙂

    There are lots of halacha phonelines, where you can call and ask anonymously.

    Bais Hora’ah Of Lakewood 732 905-9992

    #828768
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    No, you cannot halachicly marry him. The torah says ?? ???? ?? ?? ???

    #828769
    old man
    Participant

    You may act as if he is your full brother.

    #828770
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    You may act as if he is your full brother.

    Source?

    #828771

    You may act as if he is your full brother.

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    #828772
    Sam2
    Participant

    The Halacha technically is that you can’t touch even a full sibling at all. For a few reasons discussed, most (maybe not most, but many) are Noheg that it’s okay. There is no reason for a half-sibling to any different than a real sibling in both regards.

    #828773
    dvorak
    Member

    Popa, you already gave the source. A half sibling is halachically the same as a full sibling- assur to marry, allowed to touch allowed to be in yichud. Now a STEP sibling is a different story.

    #828774
    old man
    Participant

    My opinion is correct on a common sense level and requires no source.

    As has been mentioned, there is no logic in distinguishing between full and half siblings. The poskim discuss how to behave with step-siblings who are not biologically related. The tendency is to treat them as if they were biological siblings in regards to yichud and normal family life . Hence it is obvious that half and full siblings can be misyached etc…

    Certainly, though, biologically related siblings are arayos and may not have relations or ever marry.

    For a full treatment of the issue, see Tzitz Eliezer Chelek 6, Siman 40, perek 20 and 21. A very comprehensive and lengthy source. Read it, please.

    In summary, behave with your half sibling as you would with your full sibling.

    #828775
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    Old man: Nice one.

    You make up a halacha (which I happen to agree, is probably correct), then when asked for a source, instead of providing one, you say it is obvious and that I should read two huge pieces in the tzitz eliezer (how you picked that, I have no idea). But since you seem to pretend you’ve read it, why don’t you tell us which page? (you can specify an edition if you wish)

    #828776
    flowers
    Participant

    Popa: though I can’t provide a source, I do know it’s 100% correct. A half sibling has same halachos as full sibling.

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    #828777
    rikki2
    Member

    There is no shortage of credible ask the rabbi programs on line. The CR is the wrong place for this.

    #828778
    seeallsides
    Participant

    Please call a reputable rav with this type of a shayla – you don’t have to identify yourself and you will get a real psak – this is totally the wrong place for a psak din. If you don’t know who to call, i can ask the mods to give you some numbers.

    #828779
    rikki2
    Member

    If you have lived together for years and feel like brother and sister then it is a pure halachic issue. If you were raised in differnt homes and are not used to each other, it would seem appropriate to be tznius in front of him anyway.

    #828780
    WIY
    Member

    rikki2

    Not if you are only looking for a heter.

    #828781
    mms601
    Participant

    It will depend on if you grew up with him. It’s a case by case situation, there is no single rule.

    #828782
    sof davar
    Member

    QTpie – Perhaps you are confusing the terms “half-brother” and “step-brother”.

    A half brother is a brother with who you share one parent. According to the Torah a real brother for almost every halacha.

    A step-brother is someone with whom you share no parents and merely live together because one of your parents married one of his parents. This is not considered a brother and yes, they may get married.

    #828783

    I’m not very comfortable calling a rav and therefore asking here. Is there a place online I can get an answer?

    As sof davar said, a half and step brother are COMPLETELY different! I was wondering-are real brothers aloud to touch? Yichud? And no, I was not raised with him but am pretty close to him.

    #828784
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    And in response to all the Coffee Roomaratzim, the fact that she is an ervah does not allow yichud.

    For example, an eishes ish is also an ervah, and there is an issur yichud. And even if you mean ervah of shear basar, bas achoso is an ervah of shear basar and there is an issur yichud.

    I have no idea what the halacha here is, but neither do you.

    #828785
    Toi
    Participant

    cant.deal.with.self-proclaimed-ignorant-megaleh-ponim-poskim.

    #828786
    oomis
    Participant

    Step-sibling does not = half-sibling. A Step-sibling is NO blood relation to you whatsoever. It might be that your parent (widowed or divorced)married someone who came to the new marriage with a child from a previous marriage. That child is not assur to marry, and I know frum people who have in fact married their step-siblings.

    If however, your parent marries again and sires/bears a child with the new spouse, THAT child though a half-sibling, is certainly considered your full sibling in regards to erva, and would therefore be assur to marry. Some people might have a special sensitivity in the case where the step-siblings have been raised as siblings from a very young age, so that they are emotionally connected as brother/sister, even if they are not biologically related to each other. That is another issue, but still not technically assur should they want to marry.

    #828787
    midwesterner
    Participant

    “Coffee Roomaratzim”

    Love it!!!

    #828788
    ZeesKite
    Participant

    popa, that’s me, Coffee Roomaratz. Anyways what’s this about “bas achoso is an ervah of shear basar”? Could you elaborate for us uneducated masses?

    #828789
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    midwesterner: thanks!

    zeeskite: The forbidden relationships are sometimes divided into the ones that are because of familial relationship and the ones which aren’t. That is called shear basar. ??? ???.

    The only time I have seen its relevance, is in the shittah of Rabbi Akiva who held that chayvei lavin were ?? ????? ??????.

    That is, that some women who are assur to you, if you do kiddushin to them, the kiddushin does not work at all, but some, the kiddushin works and you are just still assur to them. There is a machlokes which issurim this applies to. We pasken that it applies to most chayvei krisus. (so like not nidda).

    But, Rabbi Akiva held it applies even to chayvei lavin. There is a machlokes in the gemara exactly what Rabbi Akiva’s opinion was, and according to one opinion, it only applied to chayvei lavin d’shear. So not almana l’kohen gadol, but yes anusas aviv, if I recall correctly.

    In any event, I have no reason to think it has any application to this halacha here, and I was just negating a possible silliness.

    #828790
    ZeesKite
    Participant

    Rebbe Popa: So you’re saying (implying) that a bas achoso is called ??? ??? and is not permitted to marry? (Could it maybe actually be a mitzvah? ?????? ?? ?? ?????… ???? ????? ???? ?? ???? ??’ ???? ???? ????? ????)

    #828791
    old man
    Participant

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    Section Six

    Siman 40

    Chapters 20,21

    Pgs. 221-228

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    #828792
    TheGoq
    Participant

    I Just want to thank everyone who posted in this thread i found it very interesting and somewhat informative we should have more threads like this.

    #828793
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    Rebbe Popa: So you’re saying (implying) that a bas achoso is called ??? ??? and is not permitted to marry? (Could it maybe actually be a mitzvah? ?????? ?? ?? ?????… ???? ????? ???? ?? ???? ??’ ???? ???? ????? ????)

    Thank you zeeskite. As you point out, I was making a mistake. bas achoso is not an ervah at all. Let’s switch to a different example, say bas ishto.

    oldman: Thank you. And since you did post it, I will actually go read it.

    #828794
    BTGuy
    Participant

    Hi mishchiefmaker.

    You really do have to ask your LOR. This is probably cut and dry once they know your ages and living arrangements. Or call this Bais Horaah: 908-670-1596. They are also well staffed and answer promptly, in my experience.

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