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  • #674629
    anonymisss
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    alright, I concede, you may be right about that, but good wine need not always be good money.

    ~a~

    #674630
    TJ
    Member

    The following is from the Orchos Tzadikim, Sha’ar Hasimcha, regarding drinking and drunkenness in general:

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    #674631
    Joseph
    Participant

    Many people, bochorim, yungerman, and Zeidas, get drunk ad dlo yada until they do not know the chilik between baruch mordechai and arrur haman – per the din – LSHEIM SHMAYIM.

    #674632
    Jothar
    Member

    ujm, when u say per the din, does that mean they sober up in time to bentch with kavanah, and daven maariv, including krias shma, with kavanah? Because otherwise it’s an aveirah.

    #674633
    asdfghjkl
    Participant

    baal kishron: firstly-on behalf of the CR Board & the CR Gang, i welcome ya to the cr!!! join the fun!!! head to the new members thread so you could get a proper welcome from the cr klal!!! secondly-yeah we actually hosed him down!!!! he stunk & throw up was everywhere!!!

    Shikur: no fun being sick on shushan purim-i can relate!!!! seems like a perfect screen name for this thread!!! on behalf of the CR Board & the CR Gang, i welcome ya to the cr!!! join the fun!!! head to the new members thread so you could get a proper welcome from the cr klal!!!

    #674635
    asdfghjkl
    Participant

    charlie brown: thanx for the invite buddy!!! i’ll sure bring the $250 bottle of wine!!! along with some scotch bottles from my wine celler in my basement!!!

    moish: i actually only like that $250 bottle, cause it’s the only wine my dad keeps in the house, so i kinda got used to it!!! there’s no way to even compare a kedem wine & that bottle!!!

    #674636
    Joseph
    Participant

    jothar, getting drunk until you don’t know the dif between baruch mordechai and arrur haman is a legitimate halachic shitta.

    #674638
    SJSinNYC
    Member

    ujm, yes plenty get drunk l’shaim shamayim. I would question the teenagers a lot more than a zaidy…so, if you let your teenager drink for the mitzvah (wine), just make sure its at home in a safe place. There is not enough supervision in a yeshiva in terms of protecting all the drunk bochurim.

    #674639
    Jothar
    Member

    I am aware it’s a legitimate shita. but I have yet to see anyone who says it overrides deoraysahs, which are also a legitimate shita (Moshe mipi haGevura)

    #674640
    areivimzehlazeh
    Participant

    This is really getting to me. All the threads I read today are so cynical. “let’s face it…” type comments. So tell me, none of the CR members have any sheichis with real yidden doing real mitzvos for the real purpose of the mitzvah and l’sheim shamayim?

    #674641
    tzippi
    Member

    Areivim, you’re right. I’ve discussed this with my teenage son and I believe I could trust him to drink l’shem mitzvah even if he were out of town. But unfortunately, as long as there is even a minority, and a significant one, who do not, we have to focus on that.

    #674642
    JayMatt19
    Participant

    Joseph said

    >>If someone follows a shitta that he must be drunk ad d’lo yada – and according to his shitta that means until he doesn’t know the difference between arrur haman and baruch mordechai, he is a tzaddik for doing so. <<

    He is only a tzaddik for doing so if it does not come at the expense of other mitzvos. Regardless of how drunk one gets, they still have a MITZVAS D’ORAISA for krias shema, and benching. And they need to do it in a disposition which is befitting of standing before the king. Certainly you are not suggesting that the D’Rabban of drinking trumps those TWO mitzvos from the Torah.

    #674643
    Joseph
    Participant

    No where have I said otherwise.

    #674644
    Jothar
    Member

    Agreed, Jaymatt19. I have yet to see a mekor that mattirs getting so drunk that one end up missing krias shma and bentching. If someone has it, please provide it. Otherwise, it’s pashut no such shita exists, and ?? ???? doesn’t count.

    #674645
    flatbush27
    Member

    why do ppl always assume when you say its a mitzva to drink lisheim mitzva that your also talking about if you miss krias shema and benching? nobody thinks its a mitzva to miss krias shema or benching or mariv so please stop assuming someone is. unless they say it dont assume they hold it

    #674648
    avf
    Participant

    I remember seeing in the name of Rav Elyashiv (and I believe the Chazan Ish)that “libisoymei” means also from shar mashkim aka any liquor.Rav Elya Svei drank whiskey on purim. Hard liquor is easier to get drunk from especialy for people who get sick from wine.

    #674649
    Jothar
    Member

    Flatbush27, i can only tell you what has been observed. People will drink themselves to the floor, to the point that they can’t stand up. surely those guys are not bentching or saying krias shema. Yet the guys do it again and again. Furthermore, how many people pick that literal ad delo yada shita out of convenience as opposed to mesorah simply because it suits them, even though it argues on the Mishna brura?

    #674651
    flatbush27
    Member

    jothar: many rosh yeshivas and some gedolim get drunk on Purim not because it suits them. we dont always hold like the mishna brura. the chazon ish argues on it in numerous places also

    #674653
    baal kishron
    Participant

    just playing devils advocate here fb27 can i ask when was the last time you saw a rosh yeshiva get so drunk that he was throwing up all over the place??

    #674654
    noitallmr
    Participant

    Don’t have to time to read what everyone wrote here but my Shitta on the subject is simple. Depends what your like when drunk.

    #674655
    flatbush27
    Member

    baal kishron: i am copying and pasting my post that i said earlier: “why do ppl always assume when you say its a mitzva to drink lisheim mitzva that your also talking about if you miss krias shema and benching? nobody thinks its a mitzva to miss krias shema or benching or mariv so please stop assuming someone is. unless they say it dont

    assume they hold it”

    why are you assuming i think its ok for ppl to get so drunk they are puking everywhere? i dont. i think its wrong and not the mitzva. although on a side point i have heard of a certain gadol ztl who used to throw up on purim. i will not say who because i dont remember for sure and i dont remember if it was from a reliabl source.

    #674656
    baal kishron
    Participant

    idk first of all dont get defensive i happen to think its ok to drink but in may vast experience all of the rabbis that i have been around on purim would drink enough to make themselves intoxicated not sick or as you so eloquently put it “puking everywhere”

    #674657
    flatbush27
    Member

    i will get all defensive when you ask: “can i ask when was the last time you saw a rosh yeshiva get so drunk that he was throwing up all over the place?”

    the question implies i think its ok to drink and as you so eloquently put it, and throw up all over the place.

    #674658
    flatbush27
    Member

    and your right, the story i said is probably not true, rabbis drink to make themselves intoxicated not sick as you said

    #674660
    Jothar
    Member

    So who argues on the Mishna brurah about this? Please provide a mekor. Just learning through the poskim and meforshim, all I see are people who say not to reach shichruso shel lot (Beis Yosef, Kol bo, Rem”a, Bach, Taz, Gr”a, Shl”a, etc.)

    #674661
    Y.W. Editor
    Keymaster

    Without mentioning names, I have personally witnessed leading gedoley yisroel get so drunk that they were carried to bed without bentching and davening maariv. And there were those I saw daven maariv dead-drunk. What about the issur of davening while drinking more than a riviis, let alone bottles of booze? These same gedolim were witnessed getting slammed on hard booze, not like the Rashi you mentioned. I have also seen them get drunk on the first night of Purim, and when questioned he answered “the first night of pesach is leil shimurim, and tonight is leil shikurim” (See machzor vitri, talmid rashi).

    These same gedolim get dead drunk on simchas torah and then get aliyos and daven mussaf.

    I don’t know who Jothar is, but these gedolim are not blogging on YWN.

    And don’t start with the “they are on a higher madreiga” nonsense.

    They know the mishna berurah better than you ever will in your life.

    Period.

    #674663
    flatbush27
    Member

    im not arguing with you on shichruso shel lot. i agree.

    #674664
    flatbush27
    Member

    was jothar even talking to me?

    #674666
    Joseph
    Participant

    Yasher Koach Editor.

    #674667
    mazal77
    Participant

    What I don’t understand is why anyone would drink till they got sick anyway. I tried it once and learned my lesson. Okay, okay, I had a bottle of wine(and it wasn’t a moscato or light sweet wine, it was a nice burgundy, if I remember correctly). No one in my family drinks except for me and I hated to see good wine go to waste. Well, I never felt so sick in my life. I hung out in the Bathroom for an hour. My husband was laughing so hard. I am now cured of any desire for any excess liquor intake. Half a wine glass will do, thank you very much. Oh, and any extra wine will go into a roast or chicken dish.

    #674668
    flatbush27
    Member

    thank u editor.

    mazal: from my experience ppl dont drink to get sick, they just want to get really really drunk and inevitably get sick. also some ppl. dont know when to stop drinking because they dont know their limit is and they drink too much.

    #674669
    Joseph
    Participant
    #674670

    i never found anyone getting drunk to be a good thing. why would someone want to give up their self control like that?

    #674671
    an open book
    Participant

    TroubledAndFrum: i know, right? my opinion exactly!

    hey are you new? welcome!!! have you been to the New Members thread for your official welcome yet? (or is asdfghjkl supposed to tell you about that? 😉 )

    #674675
    flatbush27
    Member

    “In our time, when alcohol abuse in our community, especially among our youth, has reached troublesome proportions, and when we hear so many stories of the tragic results of Purim drinking, it is important to reiterate strong words of caution. Although the message is out, there are still many who resist hearing it. Purim is a time for fun and celebration, not for drunkenness and its tragic consequences,” said Rabbi Weinreb.

    Breaking the Law

    While all members of the Jewish community should beware of the consequences of becoming inebriated, especially the danger of drunk driving, Rabbi Weinreb pointed out that, when teenagers consume alcohol, they are not only disobeying laws concerning underage drinking, they are also risking serious medical consequences.

    NCSY Standard

    NCSY has been firm and unrelenting in its commitment to end teenage drinking on Purim.

    “Teenage drinking inevitably yields tragedy and must, therefore, come to an end,” said Josh Halpern, an NCSY member from Philadelphia who attends the Stern Hebrew High School in Bala Cynwyd, PA.

    Zero Tolerance

    Rabbi Steven Burg, International Director of NCSY, is aware that “too many youngsters still remain either unaware or unconvinced of the great risk alcohol intake on Purim poses.”

    Nevertheless, he said he was thankful that so many NCSY members, as well as other teenagers, have heeded the warnings against the dangers of drinking alcohol.

    “They agree with us that zero tolerance will still permit an enjoyable Purim,” he said.

    #674676
    kiruvwife
    Member

    R’ Editor, what does dead drunk mean?

    #674677
    Jothar
    Member

    YW Editor, I beg to differ that gedolim aren’t blogging on YWN. You are being way too modest.

    #674679
    kiruvwife
    Member

    could anyone kindly explain what dead drunk means? and if it means what I think it does, can anyone enlighten me as to why drunkeness on purim needs to be depicted in such a way?

    #674680
    noitallmr
    Participant

    “I beg to differ that gedolim aren’t blogging on YWN”

    Real Gedolim or wannabe Gedolim???

    #674681
    squeak
    Participant

    He is being too modest? Yeah, but at my expense also!

    #674682
    oomis
    Participant

    My understanding is that dead drunk is someone who is SO drunk he is absolutely in a stupor – you could not wake him with a foghorn in his ear, or a bomb lit under him. That is someone who is passed out cold, and will likely wake up with the grandmother of all hangovers.

    Most people do not get dead drunk, merely plastered. They still act stupidly, and what is worse, because they are drunk they have no idea exactly how stupid they appear. Ever see a belligerent drunk? That’s the worst. And it can happen after only a very few drinks. It depends on the nature of the person drinking. Isn’t there a saying that a person’s true nature only comes out when he is intoxicated?

    #674683
    SJSinNYC
    Member

    Kiruvwife, dead drunk generally means a drunken stupor, where the person passes out, generally after making a huge mess and vomitting all over the place. Its not a fun sight to see, and is usually followed by the biggest hangover that really needs lots and lots of mac n cheese to fix.

    #674685
    kiruvwife
    Member

    if that’s what it means than it seems quite challenging for someone to be dead drunk and davening maariv simultaneously.

    #674686
    gavra_at_work
    Participant

    kiruvwife: Think of Lot. Its Assur to Daven when you are that drunk.

    #674687
    squeak
    Participant

    You can avoid the hangover if you make sure to stay hydrated while you are getting drunk. Alcohol dehydrates you and that causes the hangover. Moish already told you this.

    #674688
    SJSinNYC
    Member

    Squeak, thats true, but generally at a certain point of drunkeness you forget the “two glasses of water per drink” rule. So yes, people generally end up with a huge hangover if they are “dead drunk.”

    #674689
    honestlyfrum
    Member

    “the age should be 18 like everything else in America.” If you think that that is what the age should be run for public office and change it. Until then it is illegal and irresponsible to serve alcohol to anyone under 21. Even over 21, it is not meyushav al haddas how a community that prides itself on tznius as much as we do have no problem with bochrim getting so drunk that they are throwing up in public and creating huge chilulie hashem. If you feel a “need” for your child to experience “Ad Delo Yoda” have them take a nap.

    #674690
    flatbush27
    Member

    honestlyfrum: there are already people doing that in the government. bochurim throwing up in public is definitely a chillul Hashem but if you can trust your underage kid to not do that, or only drink at home with supervision or by yeshiva where hopefully there is supervision then whats the problem. its for religious purposes so its mutar if your going to say dina dimalchusa dina and if that reason doesnt work then just dont get caught. the same parents who wont give their underage kids booze will drive 50 MPH in a 30 MPH. their both breaking the law! a parent is serving at his own risk just like speeding down the highway at his own risk. bottom line is dont get caught doing it

    #674692
    kiruvwife
    Member

    GAW-according to the Editors post it would seem there is a machlokes on what the issur is in getting “dead drunk”.

    #674693
    Joseph
    Participant

    Minors drinking alcohol was discussed here:

    http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/smoking-2/page/2

    http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/smoking-2/page/3

    with the law allowing minors to drink for religious purposes/obligations. The law (in NY at least) makes no distinction between quantity or religious purpose.

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